If you would have asked me my number one priority as a parent I would have said to get my kids to be obedient as I teach them about a relationship with God. I think differently now. Yes, it's important to have respectful, obedient kids who we can trust. It's just that having kids I can trust isn't the most important thing. I believe that earning my kids' trust is more important that having them earn my trust. Check out what Moses teaches the Israelites.